Dating: It’s Ok to Say No

Dating: It’s Ok to Say No

This isn’t a complaint about BYU-Idaho as an organization. It’s where I earned my degree, and I’m not upset at the university. Instead I’d like to address an issue with the culture so prevalent around campus.

My girlfriend was at church on campus this morning, and during a lesson on dating (yeah, that’s a thing) the women were told that if a man asked them out they should just say yes.

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How I Stopped Overthinking

How I Stopped Overthinking

I’ve basically been the king of overthinking for as long as I can remember. Anybody close to me could tell you that I’ll take anything I see/hear and start writing a novel in my head on what it could mean.

Sometimes they’re fun little stories that don’t do anything to hurt me emotionally. However, most of the time these stories are about why somebody hates me, and my thoughts will spiral out of control until I believe them to be true.

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“But You Were Always So Happy…”

“But You Were Always So Happy…”

There are a lot of misconceptions regarding depression, and I’d never be able to address all of them, however there is one that has been on my mind recently. It’s the belief that you can tell on the outside whether or not a person is depressed.

For some reason we have in our mind a picture of what we believe a person should look like with mental illness, and if the person in front of us doesn’t fit that picture we doubt they are actually depressed. And even if they are it can’t really be that bad…right?

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Clinical Depression vs. Depression

Clinical Depression vs. Depression

I feel uncomfortable when people use the term “clinical depression”. I understand the need for it, as it does exist, however I don’t like the term because it sometimes causes people to believe there is real depression and fake depression, serious depression and not serious depression, actual depression and just being sad.

In my opinion depression is depression, regardless of the cause. The feelings one experiences are very real. The hopelessness is blinding. Depression is always scary.

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